Over the past few weeks, the subject of vulnerability has really been on my heart. In today’s world, we put on a mask that shows people what we want them to see while hiding what’s really going on inside. We don’t want to be real with God, and we don’t want to be real with others. We just want to be accepted, loved, and viewed as someone who has life all put together instead of stepping out of our comfort zones in order to help each other through the personal struggles we all go through.
“How did we get here?” you may ask. I don’t have the #1 answer to this question, but what I see is that people don’t want to be hurt if they become vulnerable to their situations and vulnerable to the people around them. If people only knew the pain we were enduring, they may judge us or shun us because of it. If people only knew our desire inside to live in a closer relationship with God, they may dislike us or treat us differently because we may not fit in with them. Or maybe, if people only knew our deepest callings to stand out and reach out to others around us who may be on our hearts, they may disapprove of us talking to those people because they may be the “underdogs” or the “popular ones.”
We all have struggles, and we all have things on our hearts that burden us day after day. Before we can be vulnerable with each other, we have to first be real with God. We have to cast our cares on Him first because He loved us first (1 Peter 5:7, 1 John 4:19). We have to ultimately confess and repent of our sins to live a life that is free of chains and heaviness (1 John 1:9, Proverbs 28:13). When we hand over our burdens to God, it is then that He begins to do a mighty work in us. Surrendering our struggles to Him shows that we trust Him and have faith that He will get us to a place in our lives that He knows is best for us. Also, when we lay everything down at His feet, we no longer have to worry about our situation because it’s in God’s hands (Isaiah 41:10), and in His timing, He will open doors and make a way when all odds are stacked against us. No, confessing our sins is not always fun, because with sin comes consequences, but when you are under the divine authority of Jesus and have surrendered your life to Him, you no longer have to be bound to those chains of condemnation. You are free from guilt and shame because He took on that guilt and shame for you.
When you are vulnerable and open with God, you can be real with others. I know that may seem easier said than done, but it is possible. Healing cannot begin to take place until we open up and humble ourselves. Though it may appear that people don’t care about the pain you are dealing with or the desires you have on your heart to do bigger and better things, there are people out there who do truly care and want to see the best in you. Pray and ask God to put those people in your life, and find at least one person you can confide in and be vulnerable with. When we are vulnerable with each other, we often are able to relate, and a chain reaction of healing can occur. It is when we hold everything in that we begin to build walls and wear that mask to make everybody think that we are okay. Vulnerability is a blessing when it is done in the right way. Be open, share your faith, your weaknesses, and your failures in such a way so that not only can your healing process start, but others’ healing processes can start as well. God will put the right people in your path if you let Him! It takes stepping out of our comfort zone to ultimately reach out to each other and share in our burdens.
Galatians 6:2 “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.”